The tongue! It is the instrument of eloquence, kindness, worship, and beauty!
And what is the worst instrument in the human body?
It is the tongue. It is the instrument of lying, cursing, slander, and backbiting.
Masters of tongues are the poets, storytellers, preachers and philosophers. If they take care of their tongues, they change cultures!
Imam Ghazali was more eloquent and influential than all the Arab leaders in 11th and 12th centuries; Tolstoy was more important than the Tsar; Emerson and Thoreau were more humane and credible than American presidents in the 19th century; Tammsaare is a giant literary figure in Estonia; Bishop Desmond Tutu is more powerful than all the politicians in Africa.
These men have not had arms and weapons or countries to lead, they’ve had sharp tongues!
Therefore, it is a wise idea to guide our tongue if we want to gain the upper–hand. It means to be clear. It means to be concise. Above all, it means to be kind.
Anger is one of the human emotions. We have it for a good reason and to the contrary of the conventional belief which teaches us implicitly or explicitly that we should get angry whenever we encounter a repugnant event.
Know the five causes of anger: pride, vanity, mockery, fault-finding and blame, and greed.
To get angry is a good sign that we have not yet mastered ourselves! It is because we are still strangers to ourselves.
It is human to be angry. Nevertheless, it is immature to let events control our emotion. How many people utter something hurtful to their loved ones out of anger? How many relationships or opportunity have been lost because of anger?
Anger differentiates the inexperienced from the master. The ability to control our anger is the beginning of self–mastery. Anger-control is a tact we can all learn. Forbearance is the first step of self-mastery. Few people who have achieved self–mastery, overcame their anger both in private and public. Thus, they have led a peaceful lifestyle.
When a loved one or a friend or a customer show impertinent towards us, we must remain in a strong, calm, undisturbed, quiet, non-reactionary and polite position. In other words, we must never lose the control of our emotion.
Meanwhile, if we cannot control our anger, we must learn to control our tongues. We may say something we later regret.
When I came to Estonia at the end of June 2017 I had no friends, connections or a job here. I wanted to declare my personal independence from the celebrity culture which was sweeping in England. I wanted live in my life and to live deep. I wanted to develop sublime courage and faith in myself. I wanted to get closer to nature (51% forest, 1500 islands, lakes, bogs) and focus on the importance of life. Moreover, I wanted to get to know the human hearts by myself. I was not content with the vocabulary and ideas of writers who didn’t talk to people and yet talk about them! I wanted to trust my experience.
I essence, I wanted to get to know myself as humanly as possible!
“Roaming is the easiest part, just wandering around, looking the places, imagining how people lived there at that time, breathing deeply the open air around there and feeling the best.” ― Shaikh Ashraf,
I have roamed across Estonia and remembered Mohamed Al–idrisi, who was the first roamer in Tallinn in 1154. I’ve visited the ruins, manors and fortresses where wars had been waged in other centuries. I’ve stood in front of medieval buildings and imagined the lives of those before me! I’ve walked the alleyways and saw the imagination of Estonian forefathers. I’ve climbed the high platform in Tallinn to view the medieval city.I’ve been to historical places and stared at the statues of giants of this nation. I went to the forest and walked in nature.
I’ve come to the conclusion that we remember people who left something universal and worthwhile behind: art, books, buildings and music.
In times like these, roaming, not self–help, is the remedy to lack of self–confidence, self–esteem, self–worth and self–initiative.
In times like these, the challenge is to be free from corporate marketers who have poisoned the education system, government institutions, social media and the traditional media outlets. They use stories to seduce the masses and they’re succeeding.
The stories of self–help gurus are all the same. You’re worth how much money you have in your account— how many people follow you on social media — what university you attended— and how many friends you have!
People are unprepared to deal with reality both emotionally and psychologically. Because they’ve been bombarded with lies and cheap advices from self–gurus. Thus, people “live in hiding” and terrified to face reality!
“What must I do to inherit eternal life?” Fyodor Pavlovich Karamazov asks of Father Zossima in “The Brothers Karamazov.” book and Zossima answers: “Above, all do not lie to yourself.”
It is time to be honest with ourselves. It’s time to walk alone. It is time to think. It’s time to reflect. It’s time to roam across the globe. Only then, we will find our own path.
“It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.”
― Leonardo da Vinci
Life favours the roamers. They are go–getters. They’re courageous. They initiate. They’re not afraid of the unknown world! They have sublime faith in themselves. They focus on what they can do. And they do it!
It is better to be a roamer. It is good to be less cautious and more courageous than to be stagnant. That is the essence of life.
“The man who goes alone can start today; but he who travels with another must wait till that other is ready.” – Henry David Thoreau
There are three main benefits of roaming by yourself. The first benefit is freedom. You will go wherever you want and see whoever you want to see without restraints of family members or friends.
The second reason why you ought to roam alone is that you will come out of your comfort zone and you’ll talk to strangers. People are nice to strangers when they’re alone and frighten and lonely! Moreover, you’ll learn a new language.
Finally, you should roam alone because you will learn a lot about yourself and you’ll tear down all the lies you’ve been telling yourself about yourself!
Roaming alone is a good way to clean up assumptions and preconceived ideas.
Estonians were farmers back in the day. About hundred years ago, most farmers migrated to towns and cities for better life, as advertised by marketers!
When you love nature and live in a town. It means you can’t be in the countryside most of your times because of the constraint of every day life. You do whatever you can to satisfy your need for nature!
Flowers are convenient. They are beautiful. They have different colours and aromas. They represent the beauty of nature.
I WRITE this piece to remember the ladies (above) who’ve helped me since I’ve been in Estonia.
Had it not been for these ladies, I’d of surely been only a traveller(only knowing what the advertisers want to sell to the visitors), or just an academic, or possibly a drifter.
Larissa is an Estonian Russian. She’s a caring and happy lady.She introduced me to attraction places, voluntarily. She drove me to places and showed me historical venues. Moreover, she introduced me to a local journalist. She’s active and helpful! Therefore, if I were going to describe her in word, it’d be – happy!
Kaire is an Estonian. She’s not your typical Estonian lady! She’s friendly and open. She’s a living proof that Estonians aren’t all quiet and reserved. There are many people like Kaire. One of her characteristics is that she defines femininity. She’s loving, caring and observant.
Tiiu is an Estonian lady. She’s a quiet lady. She is cool and calm. If I must stereotype Estonians, she’s a proper Estonian in that sense. She is good at finding out information about Estonia. She is private and likes to stay lay–low. Her character is:researcher.
Helve is (not in the picture) also an Estonian. She’s active and polite. She’s ready to do whatever she can to help the members of the library. She’s fond of her grandchildren and spends a great deal of her time with them when she isn’t at work. She has an amazing personality although she doesn’t say much, I can tell that from her body language. Her character is: active!
For me, every day is a New Year. And new year is just another day. I wish you all the best of every day of your lives!